What preoccupied their minds after the marriage was groundwork for their first baby. During courtship, Pastor Fezigha had notified Kate that he would want two young kids but his wife said she wanted four. Little did they know that they would have to wait for a long while to even have any. In 1995, when she was yet to conceive, she was not agitated.
But she begun getting worried when, in 1996, there was no signal of pregnancy.
The 52-year-old public wellbeing nurse, in an interview with Daily Sun at their dwelling, narrated her pains and delight to the reporter. “Normally, in every wedding ceremony, the expectation is that in the first year, you would have a baby. For me, after the wedding ceremony in stride, the expectation was that by December or January, 1995, I should be with a baby.
although, in 1994, I did not conceive, in 1995 not anything occurred. In 1996, I became concerned and people round us furthermore became concerned. People proposed that we should proceed for a medical check-up. As a doctor, I decided to glimpse one or two gynaecologists and they found out a little difficulty, pertaining to one of the fallopian tubes that was impeded. It was just one and we begun the remedy.
And in another clinic at Owerri, they did what a layman would call flushing of the other fallopian tube. But since that was the difficulty, I was not bothered because I understand that as a doctor, with one fallopian tube, you can conceive.”
According to her, she was suggested to come with her married man and after she had completed her treatment and her married man was subjected to series of checks and not anything was discovered to be incorrect with him, the couple was keen to glimpse the signals of pregnancy. although, the signs were nowhere to be discovered. And as the years rolled by, anxiety and annoyance covered Mrs. Kate Fezigha.
According to her: “After five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, 11, 12, then 15 years passed and there was nothing, I now told my married man that we should stop going any place to subject ourselves to humilitating methods and save the little money we have to take care of us.
But my married man was habitually boosting me to realise that God would give us young kids. He notified me that before he knew and married me, God had assured him in the ministry that he would wed somebody and that we would have young kids of our own. My married man was habitually guaranteeing me that God would not make a error, that God had voiced and He would do it.”
“At a time when the force became so much, I suggested to my married man that we should take up a child. I notified him that since we had one dwelling and land somewhere, let us furthermore take up and have a baby so that when we overtake on, the baby can accept his title. My married man rejected the concept.
He cited the scriptures where God affirmed to Abraham that Ishmael was not his heir but that Sarah would accept him a progeny. He said God would give us a progeny.”
Even though her married man and sister-in-law turned down the adoption option, Mrs. Fezigha was prevailed upon by her associates to give it a try. She got the shock of her life when she was asked to pay N50, 000 to take up a progeny. She paid the money but even after that, she got no progeny.
Embarrassed by the development, she decided to keep the thing to herself. She did not press allegations against the coordinator of the orphanage.
“My associates advised me that in numerous examples, where husbands did not agree to take up, the wife would go ahead and get the progeny and that the married man would finally accept. I tried that method but I was duped. My married man shamed me and notified me that I would now rest since I had been swindled. It was after that adoption saga that I made up my brain that I wouldn’t die if I didn’t have a progeny. That was how we were dwelling until last year 2012.”
In 2012, a miracle occurred in the form of a secret illness. By the end of 2011, Mrs. Fezigha, being a doctor, begun discovering alterations in her menstrual cycle, giving her the suggestion that menopause was very quick approaching. Then early last year, she had epileptic menstruation.
But in July, she had a hefty flow of body-fluid and that fuelled her anxiety that she might be having some pattern of cancer. She considered it with her married man and he directly denounced it.
“Around October, I was feeling ill and I determined to move my annual depart ahead from December to October so that I could proceed and take care of myself. But someway, the individual I was to hand over to had not described. So, I proceeded going to work, even when the leave had been accepted.
I was still working until the flood sacked our hospital and I had to arrive to Yenagoa. I had session of malaria and typhoid, HBP and more. Some persons even proposed that, possibly, I had been poisoned. This was the situation until a ally of mine and a member of our church, Deeper Life, in Botswana called me.
She knew I was ill in October and when she called me throughout our annual December withdraw and I notified her I was still not feeling fine, she expressed shock. In January, during the authority strategic seminar of all Deeper Life leaders all over the world in Lagos, she did not see me and my husband notified her I was still sick. So, she called me.
She notified me that as a doctor, I should take care of myself. She made investigations from me on the environment of the sickness and when I notified her that I couldn’t really place my hands on what was wrong with me, she told me to proceed and do a pregnancy test. She reminded me of the testimony of another pastor’s wife in Deeper Life, who had a similar experience.
“She kept on reminding me but I did not see the need. After the congress, she resided back for two more weeks. During that period, she asserted that I should do the test. She even said if I didn’t desire to proceed to the hospital to do it, I could purchase the check kit and do it at home. She mounted force and by the end of January, my married man acquired the kit and when I did it, it was affirmative.
“I expressed shock. But a considered came that as health personnel, there are false positive and contradictory outcomes. I recollected in my mind the menstrual cycle I had gone through preceding the sickness in October.
When I told my married man, he said he was assured that it was pregnancy. throughout my sickness, I had finished a scan and the medical practitioner said he saw something like fibroid or ovarian cyst. I notified him that it could be the latter and not the previous because I had never had it before.
“In February, when we determined to replicate the scan, the doctor looked at my face and asked to understand how numerous young kids I had since I got married but I notified him that I didn’t have any children. He began to commend me and thank God. someway I was quiet and I asked him if really it was pregnancy. He responded in the affirmative and tears of joy flowed down from my eyes.
He advised me to proceed and list for antenatal care. I told him that we should delay a while but he notified me that the earlier I listed, the better because of my age. He sent for my husband and suggested him not to permit me do any strenuous work at home.”
By the time she registered at the Federal health Centre (FMC) where she finally put to bed, the story of her pregnancy had gone round the hospital and her fellow doctors trooped to the office of the matron where they began to thank God. During her pregnancy, she was accepted twice for a period of one month until June 3, 2013 when her package of joy, entitled Prudence, was born into the world.
So, how was it throughout the 19 years of her childlessness? Mrs. Fezigha said she stayed pledged to her work as a midwife, taking exceptional interest in with child women and praying to God silently to give her a progeny.
She clarified better: “It has not been very simple – a midwife delivering other people’s children and you don’t have young kids of your own. But one thing is that, I so much cherish young kids and pregnant women. I did nursing first, then midwifery before I trained in public wellbeing.
I just discovered out that I have interest in delivering offspring. In all clinics that I have worked, I don’t play with pregnant women. I proceed the extra mile for any with child woman. If a woman is in labour, I would not doze if it is my shift or not. I would ensure the woman is consigned safely. With this passion for children – and I didn’t have any child – I was telling God, making quotation to Egyptian midwives in the Bible, who denied to kill children of the Israelites and were honoured by God. As a Christian, I endeavoured not to permit it to bother me. But I was telling God that since I am an equipment in his hands, he should give me my own child.”
Mrs. Fezigha said her utmost agony was to glimpse her nieces and nephews who she increased as offspring now having children of their own while she had none. She was full of applauds for her married man for standing by her all through their time span of childlessness.
She suggested twosomes, going through similar know-how to trust and believe in God, saying He would certainly remember them like he did to her family.
“My advice to childless couples that are not Christians is that they should accept as true in Christ and accept Jesus as their Lord and individual saviour. Because it is only God that can do this; no human can.
If they are passing through this dispute and they are not believers they should accept Jesus Christ as the Lord and consign their inhabits unto him so that he could recall them.
“For the Christians, they should contain on to God. It is a time span of trial. My counsel to all believers is that God is faithful and larger than our problems. Since He has promised to do it, He will do it.
“A allotment of persons tried to convince me to proceed and see some herbalists. My uncle came severally and endeavoured to force me to go somewhere. Even some Christians advised us likewise but we did not go anywhere until God did it